God I Love Being a Mom


via Dylan’s Candy Shop

The Evidence


From: *******.org>

Date: January 13, 2011

Hello  ******

I am slightly embarassed to say that I had a little bit of a mishap with the vending machine tonight after formal. Some sour patch kids got stuck on the way out and they were dangling on the hook so I used some force with my shoulder to try and knock them down. You will notice by looking at the machine, the plexi glass window has been dislodged from the frame and pushed in. I feel really bad about this but I am fairly confident it can be fixed.

Let me know what I should do, but I figured maintenance was the best to email to fix the machine


(Younger Son)


From: ***********.org>

Subject: Vending Machine

Thank you for being so forthcoming  *Younger Son*

We will be charging home the cost for the repair.  I will let you know what it is once I know.

Again, so great that you let us know.

Mrs. *******

Dean of Students

The ******** School


From: *************.org>

Subject: Fwd: Re: Vending Machine

Date: January 14, 2011 10:18:53 AM PST

To:  (Mom & Dad)

Really sorry mom and dad…but good thing she recognized and was happy with my honesty, in no trouble at all. Shouldn’t be too much money either.

My bad…


From: **********.org>


Date: January 14, 2011 3:01:33 PM PST

To:  (Mom & Dad)

i think i wanna get my ears pierced…


That’s it!


Ya gotta love it!


While the “Formative Years Ship” has pretty much sailed for me 🙂  I still think Amy Chua’s new book sounds like a fascinating read. At the very least, we could read passages to our kids to make them appreciate us more! :

From Publishers Weekly
Chua (Day of Empire) imparts the secret behind the stereotypical Asian child’s phenomenal success: the Chinese mother. Chua promotes what has traditionally worked very well in raising children: strict, Old World, uncompromising values–and the parents don’t have to be Chinese. What they are, however, are different from what she sees as indulgent and permissive Western parents: stressing academic performance above all, never accepting a mediocre grade, insisting on drilling and practice, and instilling respect for authority. Chua and her Jewish husband (both are professors at Yale Law) raised two girls, and her account of their formative years achieving amazing success in school and music performance proves both a model and a cautionary tale. Sophia, the eldest, was dutiful and diligent, leapfrogging over her peers in academics and as a Suzuki piano student; Lulu was also gifted, but defiant, who excelled at the violin but eventually balked at her mother’s pushing. Chua’s efforts “not to raise a soft, entitled child” will strike American readers as a little scary–removing her children from school for extra practice, public shaming and insults, equating Western parenting with failure–but the results, she claims somewhat glibly in this frank, unapologetic report card, “were hard to quarrel with.” (Jan.2011)

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  1. Oh wow I just read the article about the Chua book in the New York Times today. I cannot believe it! No wonder the 13 year old daughter rebelled. Who could take that pressure? It’s enough to make you want to eat pounds of Sour Patch Kids.

  2. Okay, first of all,,,,,The Fighter was awesome!!!! “W” loved it too! And I swear I went to high school with some of those (if not all of those girls). Sounds like you’ve done a wonderful job with your sons. Luckily I got through all of mine with only one body piercing (that would be one hole in each ear for only the girls) and no tats. Whew…..there were times though! I love being the first to post on your blog! I feel so special 🙂

  3. Your son is so smart! I love him!!! At least he prefaced the earring subject. Mine did it without permission, entered home with a hoodie on in mid summer! Waking up with same hoodie. He got away without us knowing for about 10 hours. Parenting indeed!

  4. Younger Son make Proud Parent
    That said—The Chinese do not win Nobel Prizes due in part to the lack of creative expression in their education system. This ‘Tiger Mother’ and her ways are frightening for way too many reasons to list here.

  5. I am dying to read this book! The TV interview I saw Amy Chua admit that she would do some “small things” differently and I wonder if she addresses those small things in her book? Chua is a Yale professor and is obviously herself the product of a Tiger Mother and her daughter has played at Carnegie Hall. She has nothing to apologize for and I think we could learn much from her if we do not automatically become defensive as mothers. (hard, I know)
    I’m not sure that she is advocating her own hard-line approach as much as telling American mothers to step up their game. WE DO. As the mother of 3 grade-school age boys, I know I need to do more to ensure my boys don’t leave my home as lazy, entitled young men with no life skills.
    Oh, and your son sounds like such a great kid. His school’s football coach may want to recruit him if he’s able to take apart a vending machine with his shoulder 🙂

  6. This will probably go down as the “Most Expensive Sour Patch Kids Ever”! Lovelovelove everything I’ve heard on the Tiger Mom book. More power to ’em – I’m sick of entitled, snotty, lazy kids who don’t want to work for anything but feel entitled to everything.

  7. Slim, what a great job you and your husband have done raising such a wonderful young man! As a Sour Patch fan, thanks for the fab photo from Dylan’s 🙂

  8. My son, considerably older now had one pierced ear/earring for awhile. . . funny how time takes care of the shock and awe of that . . . especially when it could have been a more lasting problem. My feeling as a parent was if he didn’t hurt himself or others, spoke from the heart, did his best, and respected others nothing he did would be tooo bad. SP, you seem to delight in your two and as our friend, Martha (with swollen lip) would say “That’s a good thing”.

  9. I love being a Mom and Grandma. I still feel I am learning every day, observing different kids live their lives with different values,which change with the times. Amy Chua’s book will be a must read for me.
    I love kids of all ages, hope i’ll always have them around me.
    Younger Son- I think nothing less would be expected of you? the candy machine, not the earring! Bet you were teasing or perhaps testing ??
    Colorful post Slim, really enjoyed it. xo

  10. May I also add that younger son used considerable restraint. I know of one (okay, me) who, after rocking said vending machine violently back and forth, has gotten tools and pried that sucka open. Nothing will stand between me and my corn nuts!

  11. When I was in high school the boys pierced their ears at least six or seven times in each year. It went with their mullet hair cuts. Wow I just realized my older daughter and your youngest son have something in common.

  12. Check out the Wall Street Journal article last Saturday by Chua (before you read the book), and then the response from a Jewish mother yesterday. Very funny and interesting!

  13. Mellisa Summers I second what you said. I too am sick to death of spoiled, lazy, it’s owed to me young people and frankly there are plenty of the whining 50 something Boomers who fall into this category. Having spent so much time in China since the 1970’s and having almost as many friends of Chinese descent as of American I feel I know more about the subject of Amy Chua’s book than most Americans. Yes she has gone to extremes but basically she is right on many points. This is not a stupid peasant woman from a remote village in Yunnan. She is professor of law at Yale for starters. There is a reason China has in such a short time become almost as powerful as our country. Because their people are disciplined and not afraid to work. Anyone who read the recent PISA (Program for International Student Assessment) test results should be shocked into realizing we are doing a lot wrong in most cases raising our children. SP of course has done it so right. The result of these PISA tests given to 15 year olds in 70 economies around the world every three years since 2000 just came out with Shanghai, China students in number one spot for all three categories tested, Math, Reading, and Science. U.S. students came out 23rd in Science and similarly low in the other two. A 16 year old Chinese girl last week became one of top chess players in the world. Go to a symphony performance in any country notice how many of the faces are Asian. Look at how the Chinese are walking away with gold medals in sports they were never aware of 10 or 15 years ago. They now have more of the world’s fastest trains than any country. We of course have none. Aged steam locomotives pulled the trains I traveled in China not so long ago. They have their own Stealth plane and I won’t even start on what their business successes have done to American industry. We are a competive country with competitive citizens. But how long can we stay in the running at the rate our young people going. Yes I say read Hymn of the Tiger Mother and wake up American mothers.

  14. Slim, really hilarious… you must watch that one…sure you already know that!

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  15. I LOVE BEING A MOM, TOO. (And a grandmother–how did that happen?) I agree that self discipline and hard work are fundamentals that we need to instill in our children, but they need P.E. and some fun and “just chillin” time. Have a great week.

  16. Oh … The joys of boys.
    My first and only son has volunteered to drive your second son to researched and health department Grade A piercing salon. Meanwhile he will be in the tat parlor next door thus killing two birds with one stone. I have raised him to be
    accomodating and helpful, huh? X

  17. OMG. I feel SO IN THE LOOP.
    Slim, there was a big story in the London Sunday Times yesterday about Amy and Lulu. And I Read it too. (Because, tee hee, I’m in London not Townsville).

    This is honestly the first time I’ve read one of your posts about books, music or movies, and have not had to go straight to Google or Wikipedia.

    For the first time in this North Queenslander’s life, I feel connected to the literati and cultured ones.

    I will pass on your regards to the “hilarious one”. My bones tell me the two of us will spend the day trying to interrupt each other.


  18. Yay…we have two things in common. I’m raising a 17 year old son and he (we) love Gummi Bears. However, I am far, far from being a Tiger Mother.

  19. Um- just a thought here. Why are we putting all the burden on mothers to raise responsible adults? Don’t children have two parents?

  20. I adored this post! as mother of grown daughter and son; my remark about each is they are dearly loved + vertical not horizontal+always make me proud. Will read your book suggestion. xxpeggybraswelldesign.com

  21. Oh the joys of raising boys. Having raised 3 boys and 1 daughter, the boys were much easier even with long hair, colored hair, ear piercings etc.
    Only daughters have fights with their best friends, then get parents involved and while the parents are talking the girls have made up and are best friends again. Only once. It’s surprising how quickly parents learn.

    Enjoy all the experiences of motherhood. Would not have traded a single one, and now the grandmother of 13. Yipes, how did that come about.

    Thanks for the smile.

  22. What a guy! Sweet and sour about says it when raising kids. SOme is soooo sweet, and there are parts that make you wince!
    As to Tiger Mothers – especially those in China – something is not right there when suicide accounts for the highest death rate among teenagers.

  23. Slim,
    This beats them all. How brave and adorable your son is. Gotta love him.
    I am laughing so hard I have tears running down my face.
    BTW, I have a Lumix on the way. Can’t wait to get it!
    Have a nice week.

  24. Hey, Slim. As I read , I find myself delighted by how many different responses there are to the tiger-mum story. There are extremes in all areas of life and each can claim success but for my money, balance is the ticket. I would also like to add that I believe a sense of humor is central to good parenting. Something you have in spades, Slim.

    • Thank you Debra- that is an awfully nice compliment! and may I add, I agree with you completely- balance and a sense of humour are KEY for just about everything in life- not just parenting.
      I also found all the different reactions and opinions quite fascinating.

  25. This is FUNNY! I’d better get prepared! My son just started school and my daughter will start very soon too! I’ll have both there at the same time. Double troubles? Hopefully, double joy! Or a little bit of each, because we are “normal” people…. and yes, not that perfect! Thank God!!!! LOL


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  26. ok. does anyone but me think that the dean of students sounds, rather “writes” more like a student than a grown-up???
    i think younger son was more eloquent and showed far more ability in communication skills!

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